Things that have been racing/running this year

Wednesday, December 31

I love doing a yearly race review. I did one last year, and it was fun to see how many races I had done and how much I had been running. So here goes:

In January Chase and I did the Run for Philippians in downtown Provo:

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I was super slow and I hurt all over because it was SO cold outside! That's what I get for living in dry Utah during the winter.

In March I did the Lake to Lake relay with 4 other girls:

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I signed up only knowing 1 friend and made 3 other new ones! It was a fun relay race, but it definitely took a long time and I didn't like the fact that EVERY team started at the same time - by the finish we were one of the last.

April I ran the Elevate 5k

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Chase dressed in his Iron Man costume (which he LOVES doing) and I always get pictures with him. 

I took a break from running for at least 2 months.. April and May were very slow in mileage due to an Iliotibial band injury!

I got approval to start running again by the end of May - ended up getting new shoes (Altra's, which I will never run in anything else!), and had to relearn how to run and use my inner thigh muscles (adductors), had to foam roll daily, daily stretches, and strength training.

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Did a few summer trail runs in Draper (the Draper LDS Temple behind me)

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I did a trail run with my friend Alli and it was hot and the hills hurt! But we got to sit in the freezing Provo River afterwards which was a great recovery!

June: The Dirty Dash
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Ran with friends and some family! But that really doesn't count as running cause who is timing it? It's fun to get dirty! You can view our video that Chase made with our GoPro: here.

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Silly being dirty!

July: Freedom Run

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Did our annual Freedom Run in Provo. Ran with a pretty good time! I did the 10k in 2012 and it was good, but a hill at the beginning and a hill at the end of the race. Not ideal, but it was still fun and it was great to have a crowd cheering you on all along the race route!

August: Fertility Run

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It was a lot of fun to do the Footsteps for Fertility run. Chase and I did not get a grant from them, but 11 other couples were able to get a grant! I can't believe they were able to help 11 couples! It's just amazing! We were so blessed to be able to help them!

September: Rivalry Relay - BluMan Group:
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We are having fun in the van while we wait for our runner to come into the exchange. 

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We finished strong! I ran my hardest at the finish line! It was also fun to hear a cheer from a lady I work with across the street as I was coming in to the finish line! Encouragement like that is what I want more of from races!

October: The Haunted Half - not so "Haunted"...:
It was so fun to run a half marathon with my sweetheart! He was such an awesome support to me in my running addiction, that I was a support and stayed with him so we could finish the race together! He did awesome for not training and for it being his first half marathon! Hopefully he'll do more half marathons with me down the road! Maybe even a marathon?! 

November: Twice the fun! DomiNATE Race and the 3rd annual Turkey Trot:

 Dominate Race was awesome and it was such a privilege to be able to help someone who really needs it! It was by far my best race for the year!

Turkey trot with Alli and my step dad (not pictured) - It was a quick 4 miles and I kept going even though I wanted to quit several times! I did great and finished strong!

I ended up running a total of 300 miles this year. As far as distance goes that is the most that I have ever run in a year. I ended up doubling my miles this year compared to last year! I did that all with an injury too! Running is definitely something that I love to do and will put more time and energy into staying healthy this next year so I can get better, faster and stronger!

What was your running goal for the year?
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Things that are a weekly run December 22

Tuesday, December 30

This post is a little bit late...

Running this week has been fun! I've been slow and have been walking a lot during my runs, but I don't necessarily feel burnt out from it.

Monday I woke up early and went out running in the cold rain! It was awesome and I really didn't know I was running until about half way through. I ran 3.22
I ended up getting really wet! My thighs were so cold when I walked in the door

It felt so good to get out and the rain ended up being so refreshing!

 I ended up walking a bit - I think I've been running faster than what my body feels its able to run.
Later that day the rain turned into snow. But like most Utah weather - the snow didn't last!

Wednesday (Christmas Eve) I had the day off from work, so I slept in a little bit and then Chase kicked me out the door telling me that I needed to get a run in before I felt too lazy to run. What a good husband! I ended up just running 4.93 miles, but it was so close to 5 that I could call it 5, right?
It was a lot colder than what I have been running in lately so I'm glad I had a beanie on and gloves.

Saturday didn't snow (thank goodness), but since it had snowed on Christmas (boo!) It was really hard for me to actually get out and run on the road. So I opted to run at our rec center since I don't own a treadmill (another boo!). Well I will admit I don't quite know how to use the machines so the first time on the treadmill I got to an hour and then it started doing its cool down for me. So that's why it shows a weird time.
So I hopped on another treadmill and tried that one out..

I did the second run in an hour as well. It just didn't want to show on the workout summary. All in all I did 9.29 in 2:01 which my average pace was about 13'04". Slow for me, but since I haven't ran 9 since my half marathon in October it's not bad. I'm just really sore, especially my hamstrings!

Almost to the end of the year! I only need 7 miles to complete my goal for the year!

What exercise goals did you have for the year?
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Things that are Merry Christmas 2014!!

Thursday, December 25

Merry Christmas!!

We wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas from our family to yours!

It has been quite a year for us! Definitely didn't do the things I was really hoping we would be able to do - more progress towards starting our family. We did move to a home and are in a ward with lots of people who have gone through infertility/that are still going through infertility and some who have chosen to adopt. I'm so happy that we will have a great support system for us when we start doing more treatment and things next year.

This year we decided to put off treatment and decided to take a break from "trying" to get pregnant. It was definitely hard for me to choose to do that and then get it in my head that we aren't really trying to get pregnant at this time. In a way it's been nice because I'm not constantly down and depressed every time my monthly comes around. I'm definitely ready for forward progression. Hopefully that's what this next year will bring!

What are some things you are hoping for next year (fertility treatment, running goals, etc.)? 
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Things you SHOULD say to an infertile couple

Thursday, December 18

When I get into down moments it seems like everyone vanishes from my life. Like I have to deal with these moments all on my own. I honestly think that it's cause I'm supposed to get help from other sources (Christ). I sometimes feel that I should lean on Him during my weakest moments. Yet, I still forget to kneel down to pray for help during those times. This particular time has been really hard, and I really wanted to vent to a friend for help and to get my feelings off my chest. I vented to someone I thought who cared, and who would listen to me. Cause in that moment that's all that I wanted. Instead I received what she thought she was giving me; help and support. Now after the fact, I can see where she was coming from, and I understand that she was trying to "help" but at that moment that's not what I wanted.

I have read all over social media things you "shouldn't" say to an infertile couple, but I wanted to be more positive and tell about things that you SHOULD say to an infertile couple.

The very first thing you should say to them is:

"Do you need me to listen or give advice?"
The very thing I wanted my friend to do was listen to me. I know she has been listening to me vent for so very long, but that was my darkest moment (in what seemed to be a long time), I needed a listening ear, not advice. Later I had another friend say "Tedi, next time you need to vent, just tell me to listen". That was probably the best thing she ever said to me.

"Never give up, Never Surrender" 
I for some reason have this stuck in my head often. I finally figured out where the saying is from, Galaxy Quest the movie. Regardless of the saying, it just means to keep being hopeful, and don't give up. In our weakest moments all we want to do is give up. I promise by praying to God and asking him for strength He will help us, one way or another.

"You guys are going to be the best parents..."
I have actually had several friends and neighbors tell us that we are going to be the best parents. Yes, I definitely feel inadequate a lot of the time, but it still is a positive way of saying that it's still possible that God will bless you with a child one way or another.

"Do you want to go running?"
For me this is most often ALWAYS a YES! Or a HECK YES! I love running. Running helps clear my mind. I think about a lot of problems when I'm running. Asking a friend if they want to go exercise really will help. Those endorphins are a great mood booster, even if the problem is still there after exercising. Just think Endorphins = Happiness.

"What can I do to help?"
Does your friend need help getting to a fertility appointment. Or watching her kids while she goes to that fertility appointment. Bringing over dinner after a fertility treatment. Praying for them and asking what you can do to help will help them see that they have a true friend, and someone who cares about them.

"Privately tell them about your pregnancy"
I think the best way for you to tell them about your pregnancy is by either calling them on the phone or privately messaging them and letting them know you are pregnant before you pubically announce it on social media (cause you know you will post it because you're excited). One of my close friends, told me about a girl she knows from her hometown that is struggling with infertility. Even though we didn't know each other I messaged her and we started chatting. She specifically told me (and we had only been messaging back and forth for about a month) before she told anyone else that she was pregnant. Even though it is often hard to hear news of someone becoming pregnant, I felt that was the sweetest thing anyone could have done for me.
"Remember them on Mother's and Father's Day"
The next sweetest thing anyone has ever done for me is come up to me and say "Happy Mother's Day" on Sunday at church. I don't know why, but I felt like she knew I was struggling and that was her way of showing love and compassion towards me. I honestly will never forget that. Mother's and Father's Day I think is one of the hardest days every year (aside from the other holiday's) for someone struggling with infertility. You often feel alone and neglected, and that everyone else is getting praise for being a "Mom and a Dad" when that is all you ever want. What I wish my friends and family would do is send a note saying that they love and appreciate me and that they can't wait for us to be parents. Or that they are thinking about me and Chase and want to tell us that they love us.

And last but not least...

"Remember, Remember, NEVER EVER say hurtful things"    
"If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." -Bambi


What are some things that you could say to your friends who are facing infertility?

What are some things friends have said that have helped you with hard days? 
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Things that are going to be Marathon Training

Monday, December 15

I recently watched Spirit of the Marathon for the first time. It was a great documentary on marathons and marathon training. It was cool to see how much training goes into preparing for a marathon.

Since I ran my first half marathon in January of 2013. I've been debating a lot on whether I wanted to run a marathon.
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It's been a huge thought process for me. Mainly because I haven't ever stuck with a training plan and when I do, I get injured because I push my body too hard. Since this last injury (IT band syndrome) the doctor I've been going to has been trying to get me to focus more on quality running not on quantity running. He even told me that working on my feet all day on concrete isn't good and that I should probably find another hobby. But I love running.

Chase and I went on vacation to Disneyland earlier this year, and we stayed with our friends down in Vegas for a night. While I was there I was going to run with my friend we were staying with, Celise. Because of lightening we decided to stay indoors. Celise has run several marathons and has been trying to get me to run the St. George Marathon with her for several years now. I'm still not at that point to run that particular race, but running a marathon is on my bucket list, and I would like to start training for one. 

 There are a few different training plans that I have considered.

Hal Higdon's novice training plan which is 18 weeks long and has you run 4 days a week with 2 days cross training.

Hal Higdon's marathon 3, which is 24 weeks long and has you running only 3 days a week with 2 days cross training.

Runner's World has a training plan that you can buy for $30 bucks. It's 16 weeks long and it has you run 5 days a week with 2 days of running.

Jeff Galloway's Marathon to Finish training plan that is meant for running and walking the whole marathon. It's a 30 week long program, and only has you running 3 days a week. No cross training and you run 26 miles 3 weeks before. 

Chicago Marathon Training plan by Nike+, running 5 days a week, with 1 day cross train.

Sports Fitness Advisor has beginner training that goes for 26 weeks, has you running at least 3-4 days a week with some fartlek workouts as well as some cross training. Longest run is 20 miles. 

I'm not sure what one to consider, and have still been on the fence on when to start, and how I should go about starting. I know picking a training plan and sticking with it will be my best bet in my training for a marathon. 

I would love any advice on what training plan you have done and what ones you have stuck with that have helped you be injury free.

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Things about today's run and it's been a long 2 weeks

Saturday, December 13

It's been a while since I've been out running. I think it's been 2 weeks. That's a long time! The week after Thanksgiving I wasn't feeling good and my body felt really tired and achy ALL week. It happens to me a lot, and I know it has something to do with me not getting enough sleep and that I forget that my body needs to stretch after being on my feet all day at work.

So here's my run with Chase this morning:

I thought I was doing a loop (I've only done the loop one other time) but ended up at a dead end, so we just ran around and found a great park that we could play soccer or ultimate Frisbee. So I guess it ended up being a win-win.

It was not my fastest time, and I really wanted to run 3 miles, but I'll take 2.76.

Can you see how tired I am? I definitely feel good after running.

My headphones are also flipped upside down because the wire decided not to work and cut out. It started yesterday while I was at work. BOO!

I'm off tonight to go to an Ugly Sweater Party. Should be fun! Hopefully I will win this year.. I was hopeful last year, but then got out beat by a friend. 
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Things that are Turkey Trot 2014 Race Recap

Friday, December 5

This year was my 3rd Annual Turkey run!

I had a lot of fun running the really flat course (seriously flat - it was awesome). I think that's why I liked it so much, aside from running 4 miles. I ran it in 40:32, which surprised everyone (and me) that came to support me. They expected me in another 5 minutes. Which definitely made my day to see them cheering for me at the finish line!

My friend bought me this hat so we could be "twinner's" at the turkey trot. She's very sweet and it was fun to run with a turkey on my head! Surprisingly the hat didn't bounce - which is something that I would have taken off if it had. 

Later that day we all had turkey at our house. This happened to be my first year hosting.

Gotta love the candid shot of our family (can't even see my mom). We had a joint family Thanksgiving. My family + Chase's family. His mom was the one who encouraged it because it would have been the 4 of us and that would have been extra lonely and boring fun.

Another tradition (aside from me running a turkey trot) is going and watching a movie that has recently come out. We went and watched Hunger Games Mocking Jay Part 1. It was really good, and did an okay job at following the book.

Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday... I think it stems from growing up and being able to spend a full week with my cousins back in Maryland, and being able to see all the fall leaves and the wonderful trees. I loved playing old games on the computer and playing hide-n-seek around their house. I think that was my favorite. I also remember going to the Natural History Museum in Washington D.C. as well as other Smithsonian museums. And I love it and always want to go back!

This is how I feel about Christmas coming in the stores BEFORE Thanksgiving... Or even putting up your Christmas tree before Thanksgiving (it's a sin).

Since this recap is a week and a day or two late, it allowed me time to think. I started thinking about how I love Thanksgiving, and how my family cares so much about Chase and I. I had an infertility friend and some people in some of the infertility support groups say how much they don't like the holiday's because it reminds them that they don't have kids to enjoy them with. For me this hasn't really been a problem, I think it has something to do with the fact that all of our siblings (mine and Chase's) aren't married and they don't have kids yet. I mean, my brother was 10 when we got married. So for me spending the holiday's with family is really spending time with our siblings and our parents.

However, this week, I started feeling a bit more lonely, and it seemed like the loneliness was over taking me. When I reached my lowest point, I happened to be on Instagram, and saw these 3 posts from people I happen to follow. It felt like it's what I needed to hear and that it was an answer to my silent prayer.

 I really needed to focus on staying positive with my thoughts and to not place blame on myself. I felt like that was my biggest downfall this week.

 I felt like I needed a reminder that I need to rely on God to help take away the pain that I was feeling.
Then I had to remember that I'm doing the best that I can be doing right now, and that's all that matters. Because you're gonna have hard days and you need to remember that you are doing the best you can do. I really love this and I think I will remember it always.

I'm not sure why these feelings come and go, maybe that's just life, the ebb and flow. I know it will get better and I'll stop dwelling on it eventually. And to be honest I would rather be running then feeling these feelings. So I guess this weekend calls for a run! :)

What things do you do to get over loneliness?

What is your favorite Holiday?
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Things to not post on social media and my short run

Saturday, November 22

I've been thinking about all the down and depressing things about infertility lately.. That "my life sucks" kinda feeling.

One of the depressing things is seeing baby pictures on Facebook, and Instagram, Pinterest, and even some of my favorite blogs too.

I see those a lot and I really hate that my friends/family post them. I sometimes wish I could just get off of a social media site and not have to deal with my friends and family posting pictures of their babies.

I mean what did we do before social media? I know that seems like a long long time ago, in fact it kinda was. It was about 2006 when I first found out about Facebook and before that I was on Myspace. Anyways, so before social media, we would get that baby announcement through the snail mail. We would get actual cards and letters through the mail and or we would wait to see pictures when we got back together with families.

Now, it's the norm to see it plastered ALL over the web! People want to show off what they are proud of or they almost seem like they want to feel accepted by their peers. I have also found that people want to show how "happy" they are. I am totally at fault, not really that I want to show how "happy" I am, but that I just love to show off our trips to our friends and family. I'm sure they get jealous of the places we've been. But I get jealous of their life with kids.

I don't think it will ever get better, and I may have to quit some of the social media until I can actually not feel as down and depressed. But at the same time I've found a lot of helpful things - I'm on several infertility support groups, I'm on running groups, etc. So until I quit those support groups I will keep feeling like I can't quit it. 

Enough of my tangent...

Here's my run that I did tonight, it was only 2.09 miles. Ever since I ran the Halloween Half my calves have been in a lot of pain (super super tight) whenever I run. So I just wanted to see if they would still be tight - yep! They were and foam rollers are the best!

I ran with my reflective vest even though I was running on a sidewalk.

Since it was dusk, I ran with my headlight (even though it wasn't on) cause the street lights were on. I was definitely slow! Trying to run with pain or cramps is hard for me to not try and run through. So I opted to walk/run.

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Things that are the DomiNATE race recap

Sunday, November 16

This was my first race after running the Haunted Half back in October. One of my running friends told me about this race. We ran for this guy named Nate who has T3-T4 cancer in his sinuses. He just recently under went another surgery and they were able to save his eye!

There were a LOT of elite athletes there, runners from Sojourner's Running Club, UVU's cross country team, Mountain View cross country, and more that I can't remember. It was incredible! I think there were  about 700+ runners who either ran or donated for Nate. It was such a great experience to run for him.

Me after the race. 

 It was so cold! 

The Candy Bomber was there throwing candy for the kids!

Chase and I were so cold we needed some hot chocolate

I ran the 5k in 31:01, which is the fastest I think I have run a 5k in 2 years! There was even a hill towards the end of the race.

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Things said at a ladies night out - candy jar edition...

Wednesday, November 12

Over the weekend I was at a ladies night out with my mother-in-law in her ward (which happened to be the ward Chase and I were in when we first got married). There was yummy soups and dessert (Can I say BYU Mint Brownies?!). After dinner we all did a craft, the one I did was make these cute holiday candy jars.

There was a girl there who I was talking to, she asked if I had kids (totally fine to ask that - just don't ask "when we're going to have kids"), I told her no, but we have been trying for 5 years. She said that she was sorry, but had a friend who had done this... and then another friend who had this, but then... I don't know.. at that point I was more hurt that she wasn't asking about me, and was just telling me of all these people she knew who had infertility, but who got pregnant on their own. I tried to be nice to her, but deep down I was so hurt by what she had said. When I don't know these girls and what their struggles really are, I have a really hard time hearing their success stories. Mainly because I have heard about the same thing over and over again.

Through the pain I was feeling while I was at the party, I started thinking of my first visiting teaching companion when Chase and I first got married, she is a bit older than me, but suffered/suffers (cause I don't think infertility ever really goes away permanently) from infertility. She is a JOY to be around, she makes everyone smile, and yet she hasn't EVER been able to have kids - they have had to adopt all 4 of their beautiful children. Anyways, I kinda got the feeling that I was put with her for a reason. Though I didn't know it at the time I was her companion and didn't really think about it until I was watching her (Sounds kinda creeper-ish) while at the party. Forward to a few years later when I had another companion in a different ward who became one of my good friends. She suffers from Endometriosis, and had a very hard time conceiving 2 of her children. It's just interesting how I was put with those ladies, and know the pain (and they know mine) that they have gone through to get kids into their family.

For me being a latter-day saint (LDS), a lot of times looking back I see why things were put in our way, or why people were put into our lives at that time. I know that Heavenly Father watches out for us and cares about us, and is trying to help give us strength to overcome our challenges.

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Things that are the very first...

Saturday, November 8

So hi! This is my first blog post. If you are reading this, you know this is the beginning of hopefully a very magical and very inspiring journey for me.

My name is Tedi. My husband is Chase. We have 2 dogs, Hurley and Pepper. They are like our kids. We don't have any kids (hence the name of the blog "running with infertility"), we treat our dogs like our children - though they don't always listen to us, and always have food on the mind or sniffer?

I wanted to write a blog that was about me. I know that sounded vain after I wrote it out... I wanted to write about 2 things that I am passionate about. Running and Infertility.

I love running and just started it back in 2012 after a friend said she wanted to run a race every month - then I decided to run a race a month for an entire year. I am SLOW! I am not fast at all and am working on trying to get better. But I get injured a lot and need to incorporate strength training and more quality runs into my training.

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 5 years this month. The problem is not with me, but with him. I try to be open as possible about it, because I believe people NEED to know how widespread this is coming... It really is crazy how many people I personally know or who I have worked with that struggle with this.

I want this blog to be inspiring for those who are struggling and to know they are not alone in the journey. Because I have felt alone for a long time, and realized (for me anyways), that I needed to share the pain and joys I have, not keep them inside.

Since I also love running I want to post about my race experiences and the things I am doing to try and get better and faster. Hopefully this will keep me accountable.

So here goes my journey! :)

Things that are: About Us

Chase and I met in October of 2006 at a BYU football game. A few months after that we went on our first date ("blind date" because Chase didn't remember meeting me at the BYU game) and went ice skating and got hot chocolate afterwards. We hit it off and were inseparable ever since. We got married in the LDS Timpanogos Temple, July of 2007. We are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, or better known as Mormons.
Chase loves all things Iron Man and Transformers. He is definitely a kid at heart! He loves the newest and greatest of technology - he isn't one to go out and buy it all, but he loves learning about it. He doesn't necessarily love running like me, but he supports me in my running, and even has run a few races with me.

I love running. It's my passion. I am passionate about running and about infertility. That's kinda why I created this blog. Running and exercise is my stress relief. I am the type of person that is always on the go. I have to be doing something. I do know how to relax, but it's never the same time Chase wants to relax.

We have 2 dogs - Hurley and Pepper. Hurley is 6 and is named after Hurley from the TV show Lost, he is a Puggle, has TONS of energy and can whisper when he speaks (2 volumes: loud and soft). Pepper is 2 and is named after Pepper Potts from Iron Man, she is a Dutch Shepard mixed with another breed and she's not as big as a German Shepard (and she's got cute little white socks) she loves to try and protect us and gives us hugs.