Things that are The Bigger Picture

Friday, October 28

The other day while I was driving with Chase I started thinking about the bigger picture. That this whole earth experience is one long waiting game. From the moment we are born we wait to die. I believe that there was a before we came to earth and there is an after once we die. So this short term waiting game for Chase and I to start a family is insignificant compared to the whole experience on earth. I think that the ultimate test of this life is patience.

If you think about it in shorter terms we waited to grow up to get our drivers license, we waited to turn 18, we waited to find the right person to be with, we waited to get married, we waited to buy a house, etc... We all have a choice with how we wait for things to happen in our lives.

For me these past few months I have been tested and tried through patience. I thought I had patience, but my patience was tested even more than I felt that I could bear. We've waited and are continuing to wait to bring children into this world. Chase told me in a text one day: "Do you realize that you are given trials of patience every day? Praying about it doesn't make it come. You just don't pay attention to it until you pray about it."


A great video on being patient

So with all that patience we experience on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly basis we need to be proactive. We can't sit back and expect things to change if we aren't willing to work for them.

I remember the parable that Jesus talks about in the New Testament. The one about the talents in Matthew 25. If you remember, a master gave 3 of his servants talents (money). One servant received 5, another received 2 and the last servant received 1 talents. What did they do with the talents? The servant who had 5, worked hard and gained 5 more; the servant who got 2, worked hard and gained 4 more; but the servant who received 1 talent hid his and did not gain any more. The master came back and told the two that had gained talents that they were faithful servants and since they were faithful over a few things he would make them ruler over many things. For the servant that hid his talent (because he was afraid) the master called him a slothful (lazy) servant and took his talent from him.

With that servant who buried his talents, he wasn't being proactive while waiting for his master's return. That servant was scared and didn't work to try and double his talents. What I learned while reading this parable is that we can't just sit back and do nothing while we are given the chance (talents) to be patient. While we are in the midst of being patient we need to be productive. I have a few friends who have felt that need to wait for a miracle, but they aren't just sitting around doing nothing. They are staying positive, being proactive with building their relationships with their spouse, trying to stay fit and healthy, and drawing closer to God by studying the scriptures and attending church meetings.

Mine and Chase's way to be productive in our time of waiting is getting out of debt, strengthening our relationship and focusing on serving others - because that ultimately is what will make us happy.


What are you doing in your time of waiting?
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Things that are an Ilitibial Band Syndrome Injury

Tuesday, October 11


I'm not sure when exactly I got iliotibal band syndrome (it band syndrome). I think it was after the Cedar City Half Marathon that was all downhill in September of 2013. It was after that race that I started noticing problems each time I would run anything over 6 miles. It was really painful and really annoying. It has been an ongoing problem for several years now and it was up until March of 2014 before I decided I needed to get the problem fixed.

Going back to the regular doctor wouldn't help much, they tend to try and put a band aid on things. Instead of fixing the problem - they would tell me to not run. Though I love physical therapy I had a feeling it wouldn't help, because I needed something more than what they offer to fix.

I felt like my last resort was to go to my chiropractor who deals with sports injuries. I've been seeing him since I was 16. I trust him with my care and he's always done a great job at that. He should always be my first resort rather than my last. In this instance he was my last, I have since then learned and now go to him first.

The first thing he told me when helping fix my IT band syndrome was to NOT run. He told me to take a break from running for 4-6 weeks. I didn't run for about 7 weeks, which completely took away my fitness level for running anything over a mile. It also happened to take away my shin splints that I had been dealing on and off with.

Here are some things he had me do:

-Roll out on a foam roller every. single. day.
-Bridges - including 1 legged bridges and marching bridges. With the focus being on strengthening the inside of the thigh (pushing my big toe down).
-Strengthening the ankles and glutes
-Sumo squats while using a broom
-reverse lunges
-stretches: pigeon stretch, thread the needle

At every appointment (every other week) he had me hooked up to electrical acupuncture. I would also work on the exercises he gave me and it helped him see where I was lacking and a lot of times would modify movements or have me increase my reps.



I asked what shoes I should buy, and he suggested getting Altras. He wears them, and they are supposed to help you run with a slight pronation. I could tell I was running with more supination because all my shoes showed the lateral side of the shoe more worn down then the inside.

Once he felt I was starting to heal, I was given the clear to begin running slowly. I basically had to retrain my body how to run correctly. I did that by running with my little toes up while trying to keep my big toe to the ground. It forced more pronation because running on the outside of your feet is what is thought to cause it band syndrome. There are other things that can play a role in it band syndrome, but this way taught me correct form.

Since 2014 I have gone into his office for maintenance and he has helped me run more injury free. I ran 2 marathons while seeing him and felt great after both of them. It has really made a difference. I think everyone should have a chiropractor like mine.


Here are a few articles that I have found helpful with stretches:

Elevate: Hip Control For Runners with IT-Band Friction Syndrome

Best Post Run Stretches for IT Band and Hips

**Disclaimer** I'm not a medical professional and in no way believe that what will work for me will work for you. So please seek medical advice for any questions.
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Things that are Challenges are Challenges

Friday, October 7

I find it interesting how each and every one of us has different challenges. No two challenges are the same. God has given us the opportunity to have our own unique challenges.


Yes infertility is a challenge, but since each of us are different we are all unique in what challenges we face ahead or have faced. Some have endometriosis and male factor infertility, while others have polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). The variations for each couples infertility are endless. Each of us are so different and our make up is different. No two people are the same, if you can believe it.

How we overcome these challenges can sometimes be daunting. You feel so incapable of being able to bear the challenge placed in front of you. All growing up I was taught and told that "God will not give us more then we can handle" do I really believe that? Yes. Should you believe that? Of course!

We may feel like we can't handle what we've been given. We may feel as though our world around us is crashing down. We may feel we are inadequate. BUT we can handle it, our world is not crashing down, and we are adequate.

Take Job from the bible for an example. He had so many bad things happen to him and his loved ones. Yet he kept his cool (at least that's what I take from the Bible) and moved forward with life staying true to God. He stayed positive while his world crashed around him. Could life be any worse? Could life bring on more challenges? Of course it could. But with examples from the scriptures we can gain strength to know we aren't alone in our struggles.

I gave a talk in our sacrament meeting in church a few months ago and tried to impress upon the minds of those in the room the image of Christ's suffering for our sins, pains and afflictions. I mentioned that he bled from every pore - look closely in the mirror the next time. Look real close. See all those pores on your face? Or see all the hair on your body? Each hair is a pore. Yep, he bled from every single pore. Kind of gruesome, right? But it shows what challenge He went through for us so we be saved. He loved us THAT much.

Yes God will give us challenges, and He lets things happen to us. It is for our learning and understanding. I learned recently that Faith cannot do two things. It cannot violate another persons agency. God will not force us to follow Him - but He will do everything in His power (through us sometimes) to invite, persuade, be persistent, to get us to come back to Him. And faith cannot force our will upon God. We can’t force God to giving us what we truly want and desire.

Challenges help teach us, to strengthen us and to help us grow closer to Him. With our challenges we have faith from the Savior that all will be made right. If all our faith is depleted, then we must still have hope. I know at times we feel that we can’t even hope that all will be made right. I know that getting down on our knees to pray even when we don’t feel like praying will help give us that hope again. I have felt that glimmer of hope when I thought all was crashing down beside me. Yes, it may only be a glimmer, but it has helped me get my faith back where I can start being a light and a beacon for others to follow.

If you are going through a challenge and you feel like you can’t see beyond all the darkness that surrounds you, just remember to kneel down and pray. There is one person who does not want us to succeed and that is Satan. I always remember this meme of Ashton Kutcher:

Remember we are on the winning side and that all will be made right once again.
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Things that are Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

Tuesday, October 4

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There's a popular quote by Ronald Regan that says "When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn't a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes."

This month recognizes those parents who have lost a pregnancy and/or infant loss. I can tell you what... Having had 2 failed IVF cycles I learned that miscarriage is far more common than what most people think. I had several friends and family tell me after I announced both of our losses telling me that they have also had miscarriages. Most don't say anything and it is kept private. Most grieve without wanting others to see them cry at a loss. 

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It is not fair that any of us has to go through losing a child whether it is at the very beginning, middle, or end of a pregnancy. It is not fair that any of us have lost a child due to birth defects or SIDS or any other reason not mentioned in Regan's quote. It is not fair that both parents are left to grieve while the world moves on around them.

It seemed fitting for me to post the poem called "Dads hurt too." There seems to be this stigma that only women are hurting when there is a loss of a child. That is 100% not the case. Yes, the woman is the one who carries the child, but it took two to create life. We need to remember those wonderful men who still hurt or who are hurting over the loss of a child.


Lauren over at I AM FRUITFUL reminded and encouraged me to remember that every baby's life has value and that God will give back what was taken from me. If not in this life than the next. I want to remember those babies that I held on to even if it was for just a moment. I want to remember my friend who lost her baby in the third trimester. I want to remember my parents and Chase's parents who have also suffered miscarriages. I want to remember that life, whether that is short or long, is to be cherished and never forgotten.
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